Many of us have, at some point, reached a point of no return - when you know despite your best efforts, staying together isn't going to work out.

Leaving someone who suffers from a personality disorder often isn't easy. Some may face harsh consequences, threats or false accusations just for raising the subject of separation. Others may experience their partner begging or pleading with them to stay. You may also have to deal with combinations of both extremes. Others have children, whom they want to protect and shelter, but whom they fear will become victims in the process. 

It’s common to find yourself hesitating at the crossroads – undecided as to whether it is better to stay or to go - trying to decide between the lesser of two evils. The finality of the decision can be an enormous burden, and if you’re struggling with it, you’re not alone. Many of us have been there. 

Here are a few things to consider when you are considering leaving or divorcing a personality-disordered partner:

Please note that these articles are not intended to be used in a prescriptive way or to replace legal advice, treatment or therapy. Please consult with a qualified attorney or mental health professional for specific advice on what to do in your own situation. 

These articles are offered in the hope that Non-PD's who read them might recognize their own situation, discover that they are not alone and discover safe and effective ways to navigate the complex process of leaving a relationship with a person who suffers from a Personality Disorder.